Assalam
I am writing this post entirely based on my personal beliefs. At this moment, I don’t have time to actually search into the various view points held by all the Muslim scholars round the world…. I am only writing bout the beliefs I ALREADY have inside me.
I read a post at *************** by a sister, Z, who is an Iraqi by nativity (though im not sure bout her present country of residence). The post is bout the Muslim or rather Islamic stand on ‘wife-beating’.
Z has quoted the work by another person (whose name escapes me at the moment, wil add it as a P.S) which says how Wife Beating is NOT suggested by Islam anywhere.
That scholar goes on to quote another verse from the Qur’an Paak where the word ‘beat’ (in Arabic) has been used in the Qur’an , but, where it only means ‘ to leave’ … thus implying that the verse in the Qur’an which deals with Wife Beating also only suggests that the husbands can ‘leave’ their wives and not actually BEAT them, unlike wat majority of us believe.
Then, he quotes many Hadees Shareef by Huzur (S.A.W) where it’s told to be gentle and good in the way we deal with people and to shun anger (anger is actually considered haraam in Islam) and also a Hadees telling that one shud not BEAT his wife.
Now..
Firstly, here is the verse which has become one of the favourite verses of the Islam haters… and also of women who find Islam difficult and so get an excuse in this verse to leave Islam and enter any other religion which ‘apparently’ gives them ‘rights’ *uhum*uhum*.
"4:34-36 "(34). Men are the protectors and maintainers of women, because Allah has given the one more (strength) than the other, and because they support them from their means. Therefore the righteous women are devoutly obedient, and guard in (the husband's) absence what Allah would have them guard. As to those women on whose part ye fear disloyalty and ill-conduct, admonish them (first), (Next), refuse to share their beds, (And last) beat them (lightly); but if they return to obedience, seek not against them Means (of annoyance): For Allah is Most High, great (above you all).
(35). If ye fear a breach between them twain, appoint (two) arbiters, one from his family, and the other from hers; if they wish for peace, Allah will cause their reconciliation: For Allah hath full knowledge, and is acquainted with all things.
(36). Serve Allah, and join not any partners with Him; and do good- to parents, kinsfolk, orphans, those in need, neighbours who are near, neighbours who are strangers, the companion by your side, the wayfarer (ye meet), and what your right hands possess: For Allah loveth not the arrogant, the vainglorious;"
"Therefore the righteous women are devoutly OBEDIENT, and guard in (the husband’s) absence WHAT ALLAH WOULD HAVE THEM GUARD.
I don’t think there’s an explanation needed to this part of the verse. It says that a wife shud be as her husband expects her to be…AND as Allah expects her to be.
We shud also not forget that wile stating laws and commands to the people, Allah has used ‘Islamic’ standards affirmed elsewhere in the Qur’an and not wat a society or a culture or simply a mindset wud consider as standard.
So….. the husband here also means a
STANDARD ISLAMIC husband….
To know wat a ‘standard Islamic husband’ as prescribed by the Qur’an is… we’ll need another post. As for now, we can do by saying that such a husband would be a dream come true for any sane woman…. ( of course, if u r a woman who has perversions and wud like to participate in orgies after u get married, neither is such a man meant for u nor is Islam…we r considering ‘normal’ people here)
And since we r considering a man who’s oh-so-sweet, it’s actually very lame to say things like
‘A husband doesn’t love his wife and still Islam prescribes the woman to obey her husband’ - plz … where exactly in the verse dyu find THAT??? In Islam, a husband SHOULD love his wife. Read up the rest of Islam before u pass judgments.
As for whether or not a woman shud obey a husband who DOESN’T love her, we’ll come to that later.. wait..
So, that’s bout the husband part of it.. that the husband is ‘assumed’ to be conforming to the Islamic standards (based on other sources within Islam) and then his wife is expected to be obedient to the husband.
Now coming to the
OBEDIENT part of it…. again… we shud remember that we r still dealing with a verse in the Qur’an… so saying that
‘if a husband want his wife to sleep with another man to earn some profit out of the man, a wife shud do that… that is wat Islam says… a wife shud be Obedient’ would be a testimony to your foolishness.
We r dealing wid the Qur’an. We are still within the boundaries of the Qur’an. We are still within the ‘limits’, ‘laws’ and ‘standards’ set within the Qur’an. No law above the law of God. If a husband tells u to make him a cup of coffe, make it, if he tells u to get him some alcohol, throw the same coffee on his face.
There is no question of going against the Qur’an in any way…
Anything that anyone tells u to do, be it ur husband, or ur parents, if it goes against the Qur’an, you
SHOULD NOT DO IT. so, there is no question of obeying ur husband in anything that goes against the other rules of Islam.
And since, like I told, that we r dealing with a ‘standard’ husband… he’s never gonna say some crap like that.
“What Allah wud have them guard” kinds of reaffirms the fact that this has more so to do with things that are morally right…. A better vision is provided by the remaining verse…
“As to those women on whose part ye fear disloyalty and misconduct, admonish them (first), (Next), refuse to share their beds. (And last) beat them (lightly): but if they return to obedience, seek not against them Means (of annoyance): For Allah is Most High, great (above you all).”‘As to those women on whose part ye fear disloyalty and misconduct’ is the part I concentrate on… do we really need to know the meaning of the word ‘disloyalty’ and especially so in the context of “What Allah wud have them guard”
So if a ‘right’ husband… finds his wife disobeying him on ‘right’ things and being ‘disloyal’, and ‘not guarding’ that which she shud rightly guard.
He can
1.admonish her….
2.refuse to share her bed
3.beat them
This verse thus gives a step by step way to deal wid such a woman.
And I also see that ‘beat’ is taken as a last resort… the resort before ‘divorce’
The very next verse says…
“If ye fear a breech between them twain, appoint (two)arbiters, one form his family, and the other form hers; if they wish for peace, Allah will cause their reconciliation: For Allah has full knowledge, and is acquainted with all things.”This verse speaks bout divorce and how the family of the couple shud try to get the couple back together…. Divorce happening, only wen none of the above things set things rite.
Thus, ‘beat’ is to be a last resort.
And as per MY opinion …. Beat is to be a last resort means .. BEAT IS TO BE A LAST RESORT….
I totally disagree with the (original) author in that the word ‘beat’ means something else… like ‘leave them’
Coz if it meant ‘leave’ them, I wonder why God wud again go bout teling… “IF ye fear a breech between them” I mean he just told u to leave them as a last resort.. then how does ‘IF’ arise????? You urself brought bout the brech, didn’t u? then y prescribe reconciliation ????
Its like saying
‘admonish them, next refuse to share their beds, next divorce them…but if she gets bak straight, don’t show ur annoyance any longer coz Allah is gr8 (wats the poin?You already divorced her!!!) and if you fear divorce…(I thot u already divorced her!!!) family shud come and get them bak together, and I am gonna help them in reconciliation if that is in their heart (I don’t think u can marry a lady after u divorce her, straightaway….and well, like I told.. u divorced her only moments ago)’
Just doesn’t make sense to me… prolly to many it does.. sorry, not to me!
So I choose to go by the conventional meaning of ‘beat’ which means ‘beat’.
And I think the way the (original) author has compared the ‘beat’ to the English usage ‘beat it’ :/ :/ :/ :/
From wen did Allah get so “Yo man! Don’t worry.. beat it!” with us??????????
As for ‘beat’ being used for ‘desert your wife until she comes to senses’ .. really is it much different from not sharing her bed???? Or divorcing her?? If u cud tel me the border between ‘not sharing her bed’ , ‘deserting her’ and ‘divorcing her’, I mite consider. Filhaal, I don’t. Besides, if u ask me, 'deserting' sounds gross... 'divorce' is way more dignified.
Now……..I think , very personally, that people who come up with such explanations are those who are too influenced by wat the non-Muslims say, and comment on their blogs { :D :D :D :D :D } …. Since the world is accusing all Muslims to be ‘wife-beaters’… the muslims just want to get off this tag from their shoulders and so try to find new meanings…
[I am saying this coz at present I very surely believe that ‘beat’ means ‘beat’…we’ll see, if I am convinced later that it doesn’t]Firstly, to such people…
Are u a Muslim? Do you believe in the Day of Judgment??? If u do, why are u so bothered??? Let them say wat they want to… they hate Islam, … they don’t believe in anything that Islam prescribes, that is precisely why they are non-Muslims…. And since the time of the earliest Prophets, Islam has been hated…. Haven’t you read bout the lives of the Prophets??????? From Noah to Abraham… From Moses to Jesus.. who wasn’t hated by the non-Believers???? So well, Huzur’s religion too is hated…
And r u in a doubt weder they’ll be punished for it or not???
If u r not??? y wrong ur own soul ????? let them call u a wife-beater (wen most prolly, their father has beaten the shit of their mom, while my father treated my mom like an angel… but well.. we can let it pass…).. big deal!!! U can only say how Islam says so many other things, and there is a direct hadees telin a man not to beat his wife… if they understand, gud for them.. if they don’t…. :D u see.. THAT is the reason they r not in Islam :D :D :D
Next…. Coming to how rite or wrong is ‘beating’ ur wife?????Hmmmm… now, here is where things heat up…. Feminism…:D
U see, women concentrate a lot on the word ‘beat’ and not on the rest of the thing… they fail to see that the ‘beat’ is only wen they r not being wat they shud be. The ‘beating’ is the step just before ‘divorce’ and ‘divorce’ IS THE THING THAT ALLAH HATES MOST AMONG ALL THE THINGS HE HAS MADE PERMISSIBLE FOR THE MUSLIMS.
That shud give us an idea of where exactly Allah has allowed ‘beating’ to be brought into a relation.
Of course, you would be able to appreciate this only if you have an eye that is not blind and a mind that is ready to understand.
For one, whatever religion a person belongs to (other than Islam) should first go and read up his/her own texts to know where that religion stands in this matter. You’d either find something worse.. or NOTHING AT ALL….
Second, people who would find NOTHING AT ALL shud remember that ‘wife-beating’ is very much a part of society…
If they say that they have never heard of any non-Muslim man beating his wife or even if they say that they have heard more cases of Muslim men beating their wives than Non-Muslim men.. they are tryin to fool themselves (which is not strange coz they do it all the time). WIFE BEATING exists.. in all countries, all cultures, all religions….
And if your religion has no mention whatsoever bout wife beating,, im happy.. coz I think it only re-affirms that Islam is the religion that can be applied to the narrowest of things…
It mentions things that other religions don’t even wish to consider...
As for others… who do have a mention of ‘wife-beating’ in their texts…u’d know what ur religion says bout beating women.. wen to beat women, how much to beat women..:) :) :) :) :) :) :)
Read up!!!!!! :) :) :) :)
Aint I glad im a Muslim??? :) :) :)
So by sayin this wat I mean is ki…. Maybe ‘beating’ appears wrong, lekin it’s present in every group of people…. And goin by wat ‘some’ say.. Islam is way more lenient in saying that ‘beating’ is the last resort…and adding that ‘beating’ cannot be continued unduly.
Even wen u consider those groups which hav no mention of wife beating, u’d realize that it only sets the men free in doin wat they want… islam actually says u wen to turn to beating and wen to stop it. So a Muslim man who beats up his wife can be reminded of how God wud punish him for doin wat he’s doin…he may stop his misdeed for the fear of God, if he doesn’t .. it gives the wife a reason to divorce her husband (by khula…just in case u didn’t know that such a thing exists) WITHOUT THE AID OF ANY FEMINIST ORGANIZATION.
If there is a woman who continues to be beaten by her husband and doesn’t go for a khula….. her fault .. not the religion’s.
Next question… why on earth God told to ‘beat’ ur wife….he cud have simply told to divorce…. Isn’t God supposed to be Merciful??Ya… (if u have gone bak and read up ur sacred texts.. u wudn actually be pointing at me.. but then, most prolly u haven’t.. cant help it).. God is supposed to be merciful… so I wud say God shud even not tell anyone to admonish his wife…. Forget bout not sharing her bed…
Y don’t u straight away divorce her???
Easy solution!!!! Rite!!!!
:) :) :)
And sure as hell…. Many religions prescribe divorce at the drop of a hat… :) and many others say divorce is not allowed .. :) :) so u go on living wid the person u don’t like. (psst pssst.. divorce rates by law of the country is highest in the group which is not allowed divorce by the law of their religion :) )
Well… that’s precisely why God (I think) says admonish them…. And finally beat them before u go to the thing that Allah despises the most- Divorce. This reminds of something we say in Hindi.. laato ke bhoot baton se nahi mante..
:D me thinks that is the kind of women this verse deals with.
Next..
Wat if the man goes on beating the wife under the pretext of this verse??????Well… doesn’t the wife know that this man is doing wrong??? She can either go on living wid this man …. And trust me, every suffering has a reward…. And every sin has a punishment {(and we r not coming back to this world for seven lives to wash ourselves of all our sins…. We have one life, whatever we do wil be accounted for.. we either go to hel or heaven)- that is the BASIC required belief to be a Muslim… I f u don’t believe in this, you are not a Muslim, …. And if u r not a muslim…. U have no obligations towards the Qur'an.. do whatever the hell u want…}
Or she can go for a khula…..
She has a winning edge… if only she believes….
Next,
Wat if a woman is not financially strong and so she has to live with this man even he goes on beating her under the pretext of this verse……EXACTLYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYY
NOWW AND NOWWWW we come to the real thing…
And that is …. This world is so so male dominated. Men beat up their wives…. This is a SOCIAL PROBLEM… not a religious problem. If you care to notice the number of wife beaters in ur own neighbourhod, u’d know for urself if it’s true or false that Muslim men are iwfe beaters….
However the presence of this verse in the Qur’an makes the ‘haters’ jump wid glee…. They shut their eyes to evrythin else (which they are an expert in doing) that the Qur’an says regarding the women… (why ?????/ the chapter from which this verse is taken is Surah Nisa….. a whole chapter for women…. Wid rights to Muslim women that other relgions didn’t care to even acknowledge) and go on blamin Islam to be a violent religion..
Newaz… to them be their mentality. If they so love to be talking shit of Islam wen they are themselves neck deep (am sorry .. not neck deep… SOME are actually submerged) in shit….they are only proving the point im tryin to make…. :) :) :) :)
So, wel..
Wife beating is a social problem… it is seen in all sections of society……
U must have heard of manual labourers getting drunk and beating their wives……..
U must have had maids who complain that their husbands beat them
U must have even seen posh-sosh ladies wearing shades even in the evenings to cover that black eye which was gifted to them in the previous night by their hi-profile husbands…..
And now if u telll me that ALLLL the manual labourers in the world, and ALLLL the husbands of maids…. And ALLLLL the hi-profile husbands in the world, who have beaten their wives are Muslims…:) I wud only say u “Dhanyawaad”…. :) :)
Ur diminished vision is screaming its existence…. And mind you.. screaming way way loud…. :D
So… this is a social problem out of which WOMEN in general, not just a Muslim woman.. but all women… American or Indian, Japanese or Afghani…. Haven’t yet been able to come out coz of their own psyche….. either they haven’t made themselves financially stable enuf to get out of such a relation. Or they are doin it for their children. In both these cases, we r to blame the women and not the religion…
For all we know there are even cases of women workin at top positions being beaten by their husbands and still putting up with it…
I don’t think we can blame anything more than the psyche….
There’s always a choice.. u either put up with it or you don’t.
You either remain in Islam or you don’t….
There’s always a choice.
Next,
Does Islam say that a wife can beat her husband?No, nowhere…. And I guess that’s coz men obeying his wife does not have much place in Islam….coz it’s a man whos the provider…. He HAS to provide for his wife, in marriage, or in divorce…. A woman cannot actually question a man as regards his doings in these matters.. and coming to disloyalty.. wll, 4 marriages are made permissible in Islam (for anyone who believes that his/her religion does not allow more than 1 wife… plz go and read up :) and also.. don’t confuse laws by the Indian Constitution to be laws by any religion). A woman can either choose to be living wid a second wife or she can go for a khula. If a man is found to be disloyal to his wife, in spite of this provision… the wife can straightway go for khula …. Or the court (to which she approaches for khula) can bring bout the same steps of admonish, leavin the bed and beating on the husband.
And I wud like it that way (being done by the court.. for me thinks that since this husband of mine is not Islamic newaz(otherwise he wudn be disloyal to me) wat guarantee that he wudn hit me harder if I try to hit him :D :D …. And no.. I don’t believe im the strongest woman in the world…Nor wud I wish to marry a husband whoz weaker than me :D)
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As for why isn’t it directly prescribed for the wife to hit her husband back wen he hits her…. Well, I had read somewhere that God doesn’t want the situation in the house to get worse,,,, ki the husband is beating the wife.. and now wife is also beating the husband….both beating each other.
Hmm. Sounds logical, though.. if u ask me… if my husband beats me, I wont beat him back for fear that he beat me back (again) harder since normally men have more power and strength.
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“Better said than done”…. :) :) :) ya! I know! if my father ever beat my mom, I’d have felt like killing him…
But, well… I wud know that it’s my father’s fault and not Islam’s.
And if someone blames Islam, I wud only say that .. that is
PRECISELY WHY HE/SHE is a HATER…..I, personally, wudn go for finding an alternate meanin to ‘beat’ just coz I don’t want a ‘HATER’ to hate me….
For all I know, a HATER can do no better than that! :D :D :D :D
Now
I wrote this towards the upper end of this page..
“As for whether or not a woman shud obey a husband who DOESN’T love her, we’ll come to that later.. wait..”Hmmm. Reminding ourselves that we r Muslims… we believe in the after life…. [Not believein in the after life changes everything… actually changes ur religion tooo.. u don’t remain a Muslim if u don’t believe in the after life.]
We shud know that if we don’t get a reward in this life.. we’ll get it there …the place which is the ultimate reason why we r even trying to read this book called the Qur’an, trying to know wat it says and act accordingly…. If we don’t believe in the after life, I see no point in even bothering bout this book.. let it say whatever it says…y bother??
But, assuming we r muslims…we shud know that if a husband is bad to me, I can leave him. OR. I can go on living with him, FOR THE REWARD BY ALLAH.
It’s something like… if a kaafir hurts you, you have the right to hurt him back … u r not wrong (it’s called being ‘defensive’) but if u choose to forgive him … know that Allah is Most merciful.. and know that ur reward has been multiplied many folds.
Ther’s this thing which I have heard many times….ki
we shud never break a person’s heart…..coz God lives in the heart. And then God takes it upon himself to break the person who broke his dwelling place.It’s the same thing…
Another example (which I think my hindi teacher used to say) is that
wen someone abuses us….we can abuse back definitely….but we can also choose to remain silent… then this silence acts as a wall….from which our abuser’s words bounce back and hit them back…. Thus they end up abusing themselves.Soooo, if a woman has the patience, (sorry not me!) and chooses to live wid the pain.. for her, we can say:->
“Allah will admit those who believe and work righteous deeds, to gardens beneath which rivers flow: they shall be adorned therein with bracelets of gold and pearls; and their garments there will be of silk.” [22:23]There was a lady Rabia Basri…. Her husband beat her like you cant imagine…. And this lady took the command of Allah to love her husband so dearly, that she actually used to keep the sticks and the ropes ready… so that the husband, wen he feels like beating her, shudn have difficulty in lukin for these things…..
This went on forver……………..
The reward: the first woman to ente Paradise wud be Prophet Muhammad S.A.W’s daughter……. Bibi Fatima R.A…….she will be riding on a camel….. and the rope to the camel wil be held in the hands of a lady….. a lady named Rabia Basri…. And wen the gates of Paradise wil be opened, to welcome its dwellers, this lady, shall walk into Paradise bringing the camel with Bibi Fatima, the ‘First’ lady in Paradise, … FOLLOWING BEHIND HER .
And of course…. Alllllllllllllllll this if only you believe…….. :) :) :)
And here are a few hadees which I am takin directly from Z’s post.
Noble Verses and Sayings that support the prohibition of any type of wife beating:
The following Noble Verses and Sayings from the Noble Quran and Prophet Muhammad peace be upon him respectively seem to very well support the above interpretation:
"...Do not retain them (i.e., your wives) to harm them...(The Noble Quran, 2:231)"
Narrated Mu'awiyah al-Qushayri: "I went to the Apostle of Allah (peace_be_upon_him) and asked him: What do you say (command) about our wives? He replied: Give them food what you have for yourself, and clothe them by which you clothe yourself, and do not beat them, and do not revile them. (Sunan Abu-Dawud, Book 11, Marriage (Kitab Al-Nikah), Number 2139)"
Narrated Mu'awiyah ibn Haydah: "I said: Apostle of Allah, how should we approach our wives and how should we leave them? He replied: Approach your tilth when or how you will, give her (your wife) food when you take food, clothe when you clothe yourself, do not revile her face, and do not beat her. (Sunan Abu-Dawud, Book 11, Marriage (Kitab Al-Nikah), Number 2138)"
Abu Huraira (Allah be pleased with him) reported Allah's Apostle (may peace be upon him) as saying: "He who believes in Allah and the Hereafter, if he witnesses any matter he should talk in good terms about it or keep quiet. Act kindly towards woman, for woman is created from a rib, and the most crooked part of the rib is its top. If you attempt to straighten it, you will break it, and if you leave it, its crookedness will remain there. So act kindly towards women. (Translation of Sahih Muslim, The Book of Marriage (Kitab Al-Nikah), Book 008, Number 3468)"
"O ye who believe! Ye are forbidden to inherit women against their will. Nor should ye treat them with harshness, that ye may take away part of the dower [money given by the husband to the wife for the marriage contract] ye have given them, except where they have been guilty of open lewdness; on the contrary live with them on a footing of kindness and equity. If ye take a dislike to them it may be that ye dislike a thing, and God brings about through it a great deal of good. (The Noble Quran, 4:19)"
"And among God's signs is this: He created for you mates from amongst yourselves (males as mates for females and vice versa) that you might find tranquillity and peace in them. And he has put love and kindness among you. Herein surely are signs for those who reflect. (The Noble Quran 30:21)"
"Women impure for men impure. And women of purity for men of purity. These are not affected by what people say. For them is forgiveness and an honorable provision. (The Noble Quran 24:26)"
Narrated Abu Huraira: "Allah's Apostle said, 'The strong is not the one who overcomes the people by his strength, but the strong is the one who controls himself while in anger. (Translation of Sahih Bukhari, Good Manners and Form (Al-Adab), Volume 8, Book 73, Number 135)"
Narrated Abu Huraira: "A man said to the Prophet , 'Advise me! 'The Prophet said, 'Do not become angry and furious.' The man asked (the same) again and again, and the Prophet said in each case, 'Do not become angry and furious.' (Translation of Sahih Bukhari, Good Manners and Form (Al-Adab), Volume 8, Book 73, Number 137)"
Abu Huraira reported: "I heard Allah's Messenger (may peace be upon him) as saying: One is not strong because of one's wrestling skillfully. They said: Allah's Messenger, then who is strong? He said: He who controls his anger when he is in a fit of rage. (Translation of Sahih Muslim, The Book of Virtue, Good Manners and Joining of the Ties of Relationship (Kitab Al-Birr was-Salat-I-wa'l-Adab), Book 032, Number 6314)"
Allah Almighty loves those who restrain anger: "Those who spend (freely), whether in prosperity, or in adversity; who restrain anger, and pardon (all) men; for Allah loves those who do good. (The Noble Quran, 3:134)"
The Prophet forbade striking on the face:
Let us look at the following narrations about Prophet Muhammad peace be upon him:
Narrated Salim: "....Umar said: 'The Prophet forbade beating on the face.' (Translation of Sahih Bukhari, Hunting, Slaughtering, Volume 7, Book 67, Number 449)"
Narrated AbuHurayrah: "The Prophet (peace_be_upon_him) said: When one of you inflicts a beating, he should avoid striking the face. (Sunan Abu-Dawud, Book 38, Prescribed Punishments (Kitab Al-Hudud), Number 4478)"
Plus this one from another site, which though somewat offtopic, reminds us to choose good partners, in the first place… I marry someone for money not bothering bout how gud a person he is .. then he starts beating me and I then start complaining ki seee a Muslim is using Qur’an Paak’s verses to beat me!!!!!!!! What exactly happened to the Qur’an while I was choosin my husband? Huh?
Prophet Muhammad has instructed Muslim husbands that they should not have recourse to these measures except in extreme cases such as open lewdness committed by the wife. Even in these cases the punishment should be slight and if the wife desists, the husband is not permitted to irritate her:
"In case they are guilty of open lewdness you may leave them alone in their beds and inflict slight punishment. If they are obedient to you, do not seek against them any means of annoyance" (Tirmidthi)
Furthermore, the Prophet of Islam has condemned any unjustifiable beating. Some Muslim wives complained to him that their husbands had beaten them. Hearing that, the Prophet categorically stated that:
"Those who do so (beat their wives) are not the best among you" (Abu Dawood).
It has to be remembered at this point that the Prophet has also said:
"The best of you is he who is best to his family, and I am the best among you to my family" (Tirmidthi).
The Prophet advised one Muslim woman, whose name was Fatimah bint Qais, not to marry a man because the man was known for beating women:
"I went to the Prophet and said: Abul Jahm and Mu'awiah have proposed to marry me. The Prophet (by way of advice) said: As to Mu'awiah he is very poor and Abul Jahm is accustomed to beating women" (Muslim). Newaz
9 pages on MS Word.
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P.S.- Z had quoted a certain 'Osama Abdallah'
Allah hafiz
